I am copying here a reply to an inquiry from a friend. May it encourage us to see God’s long-range Vision to heal!

 

“Beloved, now we are children of God; and it has not yet been revealed what we shall be, but we know that when He is revealed, we shall be like Him, for we shall see Him as He is. And everyone who has this hope in Him purifies himself, just as He is pure.” 1 John 3: 2-3.

Hello dear _____,

It’s after midnight now, and I want to reply to your email request before I go to sleep. You want to know what I meant from a past post where I said:

“I never really got who my husband Benjamin was to God — until — Ben went home to be with God.”

Even when my parents, sister passed, I really got who they were to God when they went to heaven — when they were no longer here on earth.

Their absence brought a Holy Clarity. Their gifts, personality, unique personalities, somehow God let me feel that.

Almost feeling…. I got a glimpse at His Joy in creating them. God was celebrating their homecoming — and I felt a part of that. They had come home! No more tears! Journey complete!

You asked me to explain what I meant…. .so here goes….

“For now we see in a mirror dimly, but then face to face. Now I know in part; then I shall know fully, even as I have been fully known,” 1 Corinthians 13:12.

In family — we get to enjoy our journey here on earth for a few dust-years, and it changes us.

We would not be fully human or fully appreciate God, or fully known, unless God put us in a human family.

We need the dimensions of love and loss, tears and joy, life and death to be complete. And there’s no better classroom than here on earth.

This is probably why The LORD allowed the devil to live on earth rent free for 6 plus millennia. He’s the classic bully we all have to face from elementary to college days.

But oh — when we finally graduate from the school of life, we know God, and ourselves in a way nothing else can teach us.

Of course — In marriage — where the two are one in Christ, it’s even more so.

Let me explain it this way…. Remember the scripture where it says Jesus couldn’t do many miracles in that town because of their unbelief? (Matthew 13:58)

Our mindsets and human reasoning block us from seeing God’s plans.

Faith needs love to unlock God’s best for us, and love is the open door to all God longs to give us, in life, in marriage.

And also, remember before the resurrection — when even Jesus’ family (His Own brother James) — they thought Jesus was delusional. (Mark 3:20-21)

“You must eat my body and drink My Blood,” (John 6:53-58) and when He said “I will rise on the third day” (John 2:19-25), they must have thought he lost his mind. Scripture shows that.

You see — human nature (our flesh, our soul) “sees” the people we live with, day in and day out — and we know them from that role.

We relate to them based on ‘our perceptions of who they are’ to us and how they operate in their day to day life. Our vision is so limited, by us.

For example, to Jesus’ earthly family, He was probably the older brother Jesus who was always the dreamer.

“That Yeshua, He is always talking of these heavenly concepts, but heck — why doesn’t he just settle down and get married already!” — they may have thought to themselves. Scripture shows us they didn’t understand — until after the resurrection.

Peter’s testimony is that all the Disciples, even James his half-brother, they saw Jesus — but didn’t really understand, till….. (James’ DNA dad was Joseph, Yeshua’s DNA dad was Abba, Father God. So – that makes James his half-brother, though Mary was their mother). Even the best families only really see in part, while here on earth.

They didn’t get it — who Yeshua (Jesus) really was — till after the resurrection — after He was gone from their midst. Absence brought clarity.

Perhaps the Nazarites thought, “Hhhmm, Mary’s oldest boy, the kind and talented carpenter, always in Synagogue, (always has his head in the clouds), always quick with the stories, parables.”

I’m sure more than one Jewish Bubbe thought to herself… “This Yeshua, son of the Widow Mary (Joseph had passed), He’s a responsible guy, takes care of his mother. He’d make a nice husband for my daughter.”

You see — our perceptions of people are based on what we know about them — not what God knows who they are (in fullness)!

Although we won’t see that perfected till we get to glory — we can get a glimpse of that here.

A good marriage is like the coming attractions — a ‘trailer’ — of a movie feature. It whets your whistle for what is to come. Heaven with the bridegroom!

(That’s why the Apostle Paul compared marriage — this analogy to our eternal marriage). That’s why the Scripture says, “know no man after the flesh.” (2 Corinthians 5:16)

That means, don’t try to use your carnal mind, human thoughts, to perceive who we think people are.

If we can see others [especially our loved ones] through the eyes of The Holy Spirit — He will show you The Truth about people — and yourself.

We will ‘be seen and known as we really are’. That’s becoming like Christ— bearing the image of Him.
Love does that!

I always knew who Ben was, to a great degree. We did everything together. Like you and ____, we ministered together, laughed together, cried together, worked together.

We only had been married fourteen years when he passed — not long enough. I knew his personality- qualities, weaknesses and struggles, and he knew mine.

But that’s what makes a marriage whole — all the puzzle pieces now fit. Nothing missing!

But, after he went to Glory, God downloaded somehow into me. The purpose of who Ben was to Him!

I always was honored to be his wife. I felt like God gave me “the cream of the crop,” because I had to wait so long for him to show up.

But it was more than that. I realized how noble his soul really was. I can’t explain it — but when your other-half leaves — you know now the uniqueness of them, in the departure.

Even Nations are changed by loss. We see it in our land.

As the enemies of The Cross have stepped in and taken control of this once great nation, we are not without hope — but it’s going to be a fight to get it back!

Our battles in Prayer have intensified. Now that things have gotten so dark in our country, people can now see and now feel the difference.

Sometimes in a leader, a teacher, a prophet, a friend, a family member— especially a mate — it’s their absence and the void that is there that shows you who they really are/ were.

We are like a vapor here in the wind of time. Suddenlies do that in life — they change everything.

Then we truly realize we are but dust — utterly dependent upon God — when every rung and ladder is pulled out from us. Then we can appreciate our breathe is in His Hands.

Yet I would not trade those few years with Ben for anything. He was God’s gift to me.

I knew God’s love in a way I never knew ,when Ben kissed me. His embrace felt like Father God’s embrace.

I felt loved, accepted, whole and complete. Not that Ben was perfect — he was human! But he was God’s choice to show me God’s Love, and that was enough for me.

And I know we have yet to taste the fullness of love, because, when we see our King Yeshua (Jesus), that will far surpass any earthly love. We will know the eternal love, which has no words.

But my Benjamin played a role on the stage of Elizabeth’s life. He was chosen to be God’s instrument to show me God’s Love.

I always loved Jesus — but because of my Messianic Jewish husband — a son of holocaust Survivors — my love for Israel and the Word deepened and grew.

Life is more happy on every level, hope grows daily — when we are truly known and loved, for real.

People — key people in our lives — leave their mark on us — for better or worse!

Everyone teaches us something about GOD and ourselves.

Ben was the perfect teacher for this student. Because of his life, I began to understand how much God must Love me — and that was a class worth taking, over and over again, if I could.

I tried to explain the best I can, things that are impossible to explain.

I know God loved Ben deeply. His keen sense of humor, his brilliant mind, his childlike innocence, he always believe the best about everyone even when I didn’t.

He loved to watch Snoopy and Charlie Brown Christmas special, yet he was a consummate scientist and loved learning.

He was generous to a fault, and had many irons-in-the-fire even, when at 52, he went suddenly to heaven.

God would not give him a long life here on earth, but it would be very full and rich and touch many people. Especially me! What a treasure to have shared the role of a lifetime with him.

I hope this helps to explain that the magnitude of only one soul in God has purpose.

God has had billions of souls throughout eternity. Each one is so unique — crafted so finely — tailor-made to fit the plan to make others life worthwhile and meaningful.

There’s no way that each life doesn’t count for a more grand, beautiful plan.

God is Love, and His Love is Divine. Once we’ve tasted that — on an intimate level — on a soul to Spirit level — we are changed forever by God’s human tools.

Sleep well dear friend, and trust that your mate was made by God for you, and you for Him.

Even with all our human flaws, it’s God’s best till we get to perfection: Jesus.

God knows our frame. Be happy and enjoy God’s gift to you. A marriage designed in heaven, and sent to earth.

Elizabeth — ✨️ In His Time

The sting of death is over! (1 Corinthians 15:55-57)

 

~ Elizabeth Cassutto

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Rev. Elizabeth Cassutto
Lightbeacon Ministries, Millsboro, Delaware.

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