Learning to maintain balance is necessary in order not to find yourself off balanced concerning the things that take place in life. I had to learn how to keep a level head when faced with difficult situations especially when it comes to people.

If I didn’t understand that not all people are alike, I would have judged everyone according to those who offended me or did something to me. If I didn’t know that all situations aren’t the same, it would put every encounter into the same category.

I had to stop saying everybody is doing or saying the same thing, because that is a false statement. If I didn’t keep an open and honest view of things then I would hold everyone accountable for what one person has said or did to me.

I had to learn to not be overly sensitive, because I begin to be suspicious of everyone that I came in contact with. There is a difference in being cautious and suspicious. Cautious means I may be guarded before I open myself up but suspicious means I have already judged convicted and sentence you.

As God is drawing me closer to Him I am finding my mind truly being form into the mind of Christ. I’m noticing my character and attitude are becoming just like His.

There’s no way anybody can say they are maintaining an intimate close relationship with God and you not be forming into more like Him. The more I press in the more I experience the throne room of His grace the more I am losing myself to become the identity of Christ. I’m seeing myself even reacting differently about situations.

Even if the flesh rises up the Spirit of God quickly checks me and brings me back into balance. I’m truly doing this walking in love toward others in my life, not because I’m forced to, but because I ask God to form His heart within me and let the power of His love work in me.

When you truly love The Lord, you will decrease daily so that you can become more like Him. Learning not to allow the frustration of others to pull me into toxic emotions and ungodly reactions has not always been easy but I just refuse to allow myself to come out of my godly character of peace and love.

Sometimes all some people are looking for is a negative reaction so that the lies they have said about you may seem true. The word of God says, “Follow peace with all men, and holiness, without which no man shall see The Lord,” Hebrews 12:14. It is important that we understand that everybody is not alike they don’t all think alike they don’t all act alike.

One of the best lessons I learned is to look at each person as an individual and not to group people in the same category. This has helped me to keep how I treat people in the right perspective. Getting to know people for yourself is the best thing to do. I have those that don’t like certain people I deal with I don’t let them change my relationship. I just tell them that’s not their assignment and my relationship with someone is none of their business because God didn’t connect them to them but me.

I had to remember that my friends have their own friends just like they had to realize that my friends didn’t have to be theirs. If we can get this understanding we can have more peace among each other.

~ Apostle Barbara R. Thomas

Apostle Barbara R. Thomas is founder of I Come to Heal Ministries, A Woman’s touch Ministry, The Next Dimension Global Outreach Ministries and Spoken Word School of Ministry and she is on a mission traveling the world proclaiming the Gospel for soul to be won to the Kingdom of God. She has a mandate on her life to help brings others to their divine purpose.