Intimate Anger!
The inward resentment brought about by an injury that was inflicted upon a person by someone close, or familiar to them, can produce violent emotional reactions.
We tend to expect people to treat us with care, especially when we give our emotions to them, therefore when we feel are hurt, or imagine an injustice had been done to us, we take it personally.
We feel totally betrayed, because we have put our confidence and trust into a person who has now inflicted harm on us.
Something about our trust being violated makes human nature want to retaliate against the one we feel had wronged us.
“Do not trust in a friend; do not put your confidence in a companion; guard the doors of your mouth from her who lies in your bosom. For son dishonors father, daughter rises against her mother, daughter-in-law against her mother-in-law; a man’s enemies are the men of his own household.,” Micah 7:5-6.
“…and ‘a man’s enemies will be those of his own household,’” Matthew 10:36.
Micah 7:5-6 and Matthew 10:36 let us know where we can expect acts of betrayal to come from. It is the relationship with those close to us that can afflicted the most emotional damage when we are hurt in them.
We don’t image hurt coming from them. After all, my husband or wife loves me; my son or daughter was birthed from me; my pastor and friends care deeply for me; my father and mother produced me and they wouldn’t possible do anything to destroy me!
But Satan will use these very persons to set you up to be destroyed emotionally.
Anytime you are a victim of betrayal of your trust, you will experience anger. Anger produces other spirits: rage, revenge, spite, hatred, bitterness, unforgiveness and murder.
There are people in prison today because they had so much anger in them that they killed the person they felt had hurt them.
Anger causes a person to harbor grudges and attitudes for years. It’s heartbreaking to realize that so many people in the body of Christ have wasted precious years hating each other sometimes over trivial matters.
Relationship have been destroyed just by one ill-spoken word that a person just won’t forgive and let go.
We have emotions and mental pain that we are yet still feeling because we refuse to let it go and live life.
Each day we let this anger grow stronger, until one day it explodes into a violent outburst, either verbally or physically.
Until a person deals with the source of their anger, they will always be miserable and cause those around them to experience the effects of their misery.
True forgiveness for the hurt must take place in order to mend the tear in the emotions and deliverance to come.
Until then, a person with anger can hold up their own prayers from being answered; their own destiny being fulfilled; their own blessings and happiness in their life.
So the next time you lash out at someone, perhaps it because you need to deal with the ANGER MONSTER inside of you!
~ Apostle Barbara R. Thomas
Apostle Barbara R. Thomas is founder of I Come to Heal Ministries, A Woman’s touch Ministry, The Next Dimension Global Outreach Ministries and Spoken Word School of Ministry and is on a mission, traveling the world, proclaiming the Gospel, for souls to be won to the Kingdom of God. She has life mandate to help bring others to their divine purpose.
Beautiful.
how do I deal with it?
Amen